Sex Toys Malaysia
Sexual pleasures have become one of the main personal issues we have with our partners nowadays, apart from the commitments, the trust issues and etc, apparently sexual pleasures are also important in order to have a healthy relationship. Honestly, I used to think that it is kind of nonsense to admit, but over time, after my own personal sexual experiences, surprisingly it is true! Living in a country where these topics are sensitive to talk about, have made our understanding a bit hazy. Back in the old times, relationships were just about falling in love and making love to each other like how you watch romance movies on Netflix such as The Notebook, but today we could actually see real news about a woman asking for a divorce for not getting enough pleasure from her husband. This topic is one of the taboo topics to talk about as our country itself, Malaysia, has not yet practice sex education among the youths. People tend to explore things better on their own with their experience, but how much more experience do we need until we truly understand ourselves? I am sure most of you guys are going through the same thing with your partner, such as getting a lot of feedback about not being able to enjoy your intimate moments together. There are some relationships that do not have to go through this matter so deeply as they both have a mutual understanding between each other but from what is obvious, people who dare to open up about not getting enough pleasures are usually the ones who did a lot of research regarding sexual pleasures, especially theirs. Sometimes when we do not get enough information and education on this matter, we tend to think that maybe it is us who are having problems with ourselves, because other people seem to be okay with it and are not having problems with it. But I can assure you now, that there is nothing wrong with us, and there are so many ways we can enjoy it better! Before we get into details about sex toys 101 today, let us start with some basic knowledge of sex toys.
Since sex toys Malaysia are not something common we talk about every day, it does not mean that people do not know what it means. If you actually try to talk to one of your closest friends about it, I am sure one of them has explored it on their own and do not get surprised by how much they know about all this stuff. Generally, based on Google Dictionary, sex toys are objects or devices that are used for sexual stimulation or to enhance sexual pleasures. Therefore, sex toys are only some stuff we use and play with, with our partners or alone to enjoy our sexual time better.
So the biggest question. Is having a large purple phallic looking object legal? Well according to Section 292 (a) of the Penal code:
a) sells, lets to hire, distributes, publicly exhibits or in any manner puts into circulation, or for purposes of sale, hire, distribution, public exhibition or circulation makes, produces or has in his possession any obscene book, pamphlet, paper, drawing, painting, representation or figure or any other obscene object whatsoever;…
…shall be punished with imprisonment for a term which may extend to three years or with fine or with both.”
So from that, some of you might think, “Ah bummer, it’s illegal then?” Or some of you may already have some objects that fall under those classifications and might now think you are in trouble. Well, fortunately, that might not necessarily be the case.
Firstly, it is not like the police are actively looking for anyone and everyone who has a porno mag or a butt-plug in their homes. If that were the case, you’d see stuff like that on the local news quite often. So worry not, for those of you who have those things in the possession, but, be careful not to publicly display them.
You see, the penal code mentions “obscene” objects, but what is classified as obscene? And do sex toys fall under that category?
Things that are classified as obscene according to Malaysian law are things that have the “tendency to deprave and corrupt public morals”, so basically things the public and masses find repulsive, gross or offensive. But here is the catch, everyone has their own interpretation of what is disgusting or offensive.
For example, many people might look at nasi lemak flavoured ice cream with disgust and maybe, some might find it offensive, but it won’t mean that the ice cream shop selling the flavour won’t get raided and the owners sent to jail.
The reason why sex toys are not cracked down on a lot is that most of them are not built for the sole purpose of looking obscene, and not built to purposely offend anyone. And it’s not like there is a black market here for it either, you can find all sorts of sex items on large, local online shops like Shopee and Lazada, usually categorised as being “personal” or “sexual health” items. Most distributors of sex toys usually package them discretely so that it is more difficult to tell what an item is just by looking at it in its package.
Coming back to the point about what is classified as obscene, not everyone will think a vibrator or fleshlight is obscene at first glance because some designs of certain sex toys are not immediately recognizable.
Besides, if you get a dildo that doesn’t look too penis-shaped, they can just pass as regular objects, or if you can even just say that a vibrator is just a massage item as well.
But do take caution, the use of sex toys when assaulting someone can be used as evidence of course, so as long as your not doing anything illegal with them, your good. Oh and as long as you keep it in your bedroom, your fine too.
So, now that we know that having a sex toy is not 100% forbidden, how can we get them here in Malaysia?
Why Are Sex Toys Essentials?
Based on the definition previously, it is said that people use sex toys for sexual stimulation and to enhance sexual pleasures. Maybe you are thinking that you know yourself better and you think that you do not need extra things to get more pleasure but over time, your normal routines will get boring especially with your partner, and it is time to spice things up a little bit. Individually, you get to explore and know yourself better sexually. For example, some women prefer to be pampered and being treated like a princess, but you might want to feel dominated by your partner in a certain way like being slapped or teased at certain sensitive areas that can trigger or aroused you more. In a way, you get to learn more about yourself, especially what you want and like enjoying in the bedroom, even in your personal sexual time.
Apart from that, sometimes our partners tend to keep things to themselves because they think of our pleasures more than theirs. Having the idea of playing with sex toys with your partner also provides a safe space for your partner to open up about what sexual fantasies they may have or how they would like to be treated as well by you. There are also some cases where your partner might not even know what they want. Therefore, it is always crucial for both of you to have a conversation about it, or you might have to initiate the first step to open up about these things so that your partner feels safe opening up after. At the end of the day, you both want to be able to enjoy the same amount of excitement and passion for each other.
For women, we have extra benefits because we get to enjoy multiple orgasms, but we do not get to enjoy it every time, because most men do not like to educate themselves about it and they believe what they see on pornography videos better. Not to forget, because of their insecurities about their penis sizes, sometimes it can become a problem as well. What we need to accept is that we can utilize all these privileges and not treat them as a problem. For instance, women can have clitoral orgasms where we need a certain amount of pressure on our clitoral walls, which normally penis and fingers can do the trick but not all the time as we need to put constant pressure. That is when we use vibrators. Meanwhile, for women A-spot and G-spot can only be reached at a certain length for them to get the climax they desire, their partner can make use of dildos that come in different sizes and types, normally this is used by lesbian partners.
While for men, they normally have a problem of lasting longer and erection. Although there are not many sex toys available for men compared for women, the ones that are available are so helpful where it can help control blood circulation around penis area, makes your erection longer and helps you last longer on the bed. Furthermore, most men claim that getting a regular massage on their bottom wonder-gland (P-spot) gives an intense activity of inflammation and also helps them to be more productive. Now that I have gotten your attention, let us talk about sex toys for beginners.
Suggestions As A Beginner For Him/Her
There are varieties of sex toys you can explore over time, once you are comfortable with them but right now let us talk about what kind of sex toys you can use or consider as a beginner. For women, many sex toy sellers recommend for women get small vibrators to avoid the feeling of overwhelming. Remember that we are here to explore, and it is okay to have second-doubts. A small vibrator is easy as it comes in small sizes where you can hide anywhere including between your fingers. But not too fast on the judgment, although it is small, it can still provide you the same amount of pressure on your clitoral walls and would not give you lesser pleasure than any other vibrators. Furthermore, you can also consider a G-spot vibrator if you would like to try G-spot stimulation, not to worry as it is not too big and affordable too, but as long as you are in a comfortable position and use a lot of lube, you will definitely enjoy the fun stimulate your G-spot in no time!
Since sex toys for men are not a lot and hardly shown in movies, I can understand how men are struggling with their pleasure and insecurities at times. But now, you can stop struggling as you can try the vibrator cock ring. Based on Zachary Zane who is a sex writer for Men’s Health, “No matter how good you are at sex, you cannot vibrate”. Apart from the vibrator cock ring can help you control your blood flow, it can also give vibration around your partner’s vulva during your intercourse. Well there you go, you and your partner get to enjoy it together at the same time. Other than that, you can also try out vibrating strokers if you are interested in getting your penis stroked.
Nevertheless, these are only suggestions and recommendations. Of course, you are allowed to explore on your own and take your time exploring. Even so, I understand that our country is still not open to this topic which makes it hard for you to purchase, and sometimes we would like to keep it private between us and the seller. Hence, I can suggest some trusted online shops that you can get this from, and I hope you make good use of this information.
Where To Find Them?
Now finding an actual sex toy shop might be very difficult in Malaysia. Even if sex toys are not 100% illegal, displaying them in public spaces like shopping malls might be very risky and the authorities will eventually step in. Either them or some crazy conservative might come in and vandalise the store, so your best bet is to source these toys online.
Shopee/ Lazada Vendors
You will be able to find plenty of vendors selling various sex toys on both these platforms, a quick google search can redirect you to a range of sellers in the results.
Some examples of vendors may include:
AbangX on Lazada
This vendor can get your items within 24 hours and they ensure your privacy by not having your names labelled on the items that you have bought, you wouldn’t want to get a phallic item with your name written on it for your family members or roommates to see now, would you?
But this one vendor is not the only one on Shopee, there are much more, you will surely find something that might pique your interest there.
Various Other Sellers on Shopee
Like Lazada, there is a wide range of sex toy vendors you can find on Shopee as well, there really is no shortage of them. Which we found….pleasantly surprising.
There are also a number of websites that are dedicated to selling pleasure items in Malaysia as well. Some of these websites include:
Playful2Nite claims to be the largest online retailer of sex toys in Malaysia. You can find a wide array of items that can cater to males, females and LGBT+ individuals. Like most distributors of sex toys and items, Playful2Nite offers discreet packaging for your items, so no one will know that there is a fleshlight, a vibrator or a colourful dildo in that mysterious box they ship your purchases in.
The site has been in the sex toy business for a while, so the items you see and get are all legit. And it’s not just limited to sex toys too, you can find erotic sleepwear, underwear and other accessories on the website as well, so why not pay a visit and check out their site over at playful2night.com
Another popular online sex toy store in which you can also get cosplay items, lingerie, stockings, corsets, plus size wear and various other branded things too!
Oddly enough, they also do sell electric toothbrushes. Must be part of some tickling kink for all we know, or maybe SexyWawa.com really also cares for your dental hygiene? We ain’t judging. But hey, if you want electric toothbrushes among the other items listed, including sex toys for him and her, then SexyWawa.com is where you should be headed!
You’d be happy to know that SexyWawa.com also provides discreet packaging 😉 .
Meanwhile, Condom69 has a lot more pieces of jewelry for both men and women if you would like to decorate your private parts for your intimate moments. Apart from that, you can also find many types of lubricants with flavors on this website where you could not find anywhere else. Not to worry about the details of the packaging as you can purchase some other basic essentials on this website that can hide your sex toy products. Now that you have all the options to consider, do not forget to always make sure to play safe with P’sang.co. I understand how we all love discreet packaging when it comes to private stuff like this, P’sang.co has many types of cool condoms you can try with a very unique packaging where you do not have to worry when people see you holding it, for more condom products articles that might blow your mind, click here. Regardless, I hope you had a good time reading this and have fun exploring!
Moving on, MYSEXTOY2U has an established web development if you still have doubts about purchasing your sex toys. On their website, they have categorized all the available sex toys based on genders and even for LGBT relationships who would like to explore more in enjoying sexual pleasure. Not only that, with the images of the products including the lingerie they have on their website, you get to see the high quality of their products better included with cheap prices.
I just came across this website and I am already in love with their products. Unlike other online sex toy shops, Tenga provides sex toys mainly for men, and not only that, all of their products are of high quality and own under their own brand, which shows more credibility of their products, including their Tenga Pocket that is stretchable to any sizes of men and all you need to choose is the types. But if any of you woman, who would like to check out Tenga, they also have one specific category under Iroha with small sizes and cute colors of sex toys products for your pleasure as well. Moreover, their company is based in Kuala Lumpur. Thus, you will receive the fastest shipping as they would not delay your products as soon as you have made your payment.
Nowadays, young people love aesthetic things including aesthetic sex toys. I mean, you can get dirty and feel pretty, so why not head over to Erosu.my, they also have an Instagram where you can communicate with them easily and they provide the best eye-pleasing feeds on their Instagram with their products. For boys, you can head on to their website if you would like to see what they have for you, but they are going to come up with more products including lubricants of their own. Be sure to keep up!
So there you have it, a quick guide and information piece on the legality of sex toys in Malaysia, and where you can get them online!
So, why not take a little browse?
Just, make sure you’re not doing it at work, or that nobody is around to see what you are doing.
Updated at 3:00 pm, 29th of December 2020 by Hana.